Receiving a diagnosis can be an emotional whirlwind—overwhelming in some moments, yet deeply illuminating in others.

As someone who works closely with families early in their journey, I often hear parents describe a mix of emotions. Many tell me, "It all makes sense now," experiencing a sense of clarity and relief as years of questions begin to come together.

But just as often, that clarity is quickly followed by uncertainty.

"What do we do next?"

Here are 4 Things to Know Now That You Have a Diagnosis

1. ADHD is a Neurobiological Difference—Your Child is Not Broken.

ADHD is a neurobiological difference that affects how executive function skills are activated in the brain.

Here’s what this means:

Children with ADHD experience about a 30% difference in their executive function skills compared to their peers, when they have to do something particularly of low interest. For example, if your child is 12 years old, their executive function abilities may be more comparable to that of a 9-year-old. This is why tasks like turning in assignments, initiating assignments, or planning and prioritizing may be challenging for them.

When I work with families, I consider various factors that influence executive function skills:

Nervous system regulation
Environmental factors at home and school that can support learning
Specific executive function strategies

These challenges stem from neurodevelopmental differences and are linked to lower dopamine and norepinephrine levels, affecting behavior and attention.

2. The Executive Function Lens is Key to Supporting Your Child’s Behavior

Executive function skills are brain-based abilities that help with self-regulation and task initiation. Some of these critical skills include:

Planning and prioritizing
Task initiation
Response inhibition
Metacognition(seeing how today’s actions affect the future)
Time management
Working memory
Processing speed

While children with ADHD have differences in the development and functioning of the brain networks that support executive function, these skills can be strengthened through coaching, practice with a parent/teacher, and supportive environments. With the right structures, routines, and communication strategies in place, your child can thrive. Strengthening these skills will not only set them up for success but will also improve your relationship with them.

3. Communicating With Your Child Can Be Easier.

You may feel frustrated when your child doesn’t follow through on tasks or misses instructions. But there are ways to communicate that can make this process easier for both of you:

Slow down to accommodate their processing speed.
Limit distractions in the environment.
Be concise and explicit with instructions.
Write things down to reduce memory overload.
Listen, acknowledge, and validate their emotions. Reflect back what you’re hearing, then guide them towards appropriate next steps.

These strategies will not only support their brain but also create a more peaceful dynamic between you and your child.

4. Assess Their Learning Environment.

Children with ADHD benefit from structure to feel more grounded. Simple systems can help bring calm to the chaos they may feel.

Start by considering their homework workspace:

Lighting: Is it too bright or too dim?
Noise: Are there sounds that could be distracting?
Location: Where do they feel most comfortable working?
Textures: Are certain materials overstimulating or calming?

Creating a consistent after-school routine that works for your child’s needs, while also developing key skills like time management, can make a huge difference. Remember, it takes time and patience to build these skills, so consistent check-ins are essential. If this becomes overwhelming, consider hiring a tutor or an executive function coach to help.

Additionally, apply these strategies in their school environment. Engaging in conversations with your child’s school about creating a supportive environment can make all the difference in helping your child succeed.

ADHD Support for Parents

Now that you understand the importance of executive function skills, the final step is implementation. Continue to:

Parent the child you have rather than focusing on who you think they should be.
View behaviors through the lens of executive function to better understand their challenges.
Advocate for them at school by bringing potential solutions and observations to teachers and staff.
Support their learning environment both at home and in the classroom.

Lastly, it’s important to remember that while ADHD is commonly referred to with terms like "deficit" and "disorder," I prefer to use the language of "neurodevelopmental differences." However, when advocating for your child, especially in school settings, you may need to use more traditional medical language to access necessary support.

Thank you for entrusting The Learning Collective ATX with this crucial part of your child's development. Whether you’re looking for an ADHD crash course, a Parent Support, or 1:1 Student Executice Function Coaching, checkout all of our services here.

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